When we’re younger, for the most part you're just part of your family. You often have family dinners, get help with your homework and have holidays together. As you get older how does the concept of family change or does it?
I grew up with five other siblings, cousins, aunts, grandparents etc. My family was very close and I think of my cousins more like siblings than cousins as I saw them pretty much every weekend growing up. I learnt from a young age how important family was and that no matter what at the end of the day they were my family and that they loved me. Unconditional love from family has to be one of the best feelings in the world.
So what happens when you get older, move away and start a life of your own? How does family change or how does the meaning of family change?
For the last two years I have been living in Australia. Moving across the world from my family was one of the hardest decisions that I have made as family means a lot to me and I have always put extra effort into relationships, especially relatives. Although I adore my family, at the same time I realised that life takes you places sometimes to help you grow and be a better person. My path was going somewhere that I hadn’t planned and as scary as it was I knew that I was meant to at least try a new path. I knew that I had to step out of my comfort zone and go into the unknown.
Although moving away was hard and still is hard sometimes I have gained a new perception of my family from it. Moving made me appreciate them even more. I realise now how special family is. I knew family was important before but I now understand how irreplaceable each person is and how they all bring something special to my life.
The hard thing about life is that people often forget or take for granted the great things that they have in their lives and unfortunately family importance often gets overlooked. We get so caught up in our lives and truthfully know that our family will always be there so we tend to forget to appreciate them and be grateful for having them in our lives.
I would like to take this opportunity to remind you of how special your family is. You are incredibly lucky to have them, even if there is only one special family member in your life. They love you, for every flaw, for every mistake and for every accomplishment that you have had.
Unfortunately, I didn’t understand the true capacity of unconditional love from family until I moved away. Now I wish I had appreciated and showed them more how much I loved them while I still lived in Canada.
That’s the thing about life, it’s all about learning. So rather than you learning the hard way, learn from my experience. Go and tell your mother, father, grandmother, sister etc. that you love them. Spend some time with them, cherish them and be grateful that you have such amazing people in your life.
By: Cortnie Bornyk