Friendship is a word that holds incredible meaning. Every person likes finding people that they are compatible with but what is real friendship?
Friendship to me is someone that you can call when you’re upset, or someone that you message just to say hi and check in. They are someone that you know no matter what will be there for you and won’t judge you if you do something embarrassing or say the wrong thing. Friends like you for who you are but know that you’re not perfect and have flaws like everyone else. They understand when you have a bad day, need to vent and eat some ice cream. They see you at your worst and love you anyway. Real friendship is not easy to find.
Women are very competitive with one another and sometimes feel threatened when someone is prettier, smarter, fitter, more athletic etc. then them. Occasionally it’s not because they are threatened but because they think they are superior or entitled. These scenarios lead to the cattiness or “backstabbing”. Some girls will make it seem like they are your friend in front of you and then once you’re gone talk badly about you to other girls. This is not real friendship. This type of person does not deserve to be your friend. I would like to say that as you get older it gets better, and it does, but unfortunately some girls will never grow out of this.
How some women act is not a reflection on you. Instead it’s a complete reflection on them and their own insecurities. The hard part is often not letting yourself get caught up in it and letting it affect you. Why? Because you are amazing and have such great things to offer the world. You don’t deserve to have someone make you feel invaluable or worthless.
Friendships are a choice. If you have someone in your life that is negative or a “mean girl” then it’s up to you to not be friends with them. You should always be respectful but they don’t need to be your best friend or even a close friend. Maybe they could be more of an acquaintance. It may seem really hard to do if you’re in school or college but once you stop giving “mean girls” power over you, you’ll feel amazing.
During difficult situations with means girls you need to remember how awesome you are and why you love yourself. Don't let them break you down when their opinions probably aren't even true. You’ll learn as you get older the “real” kind of people that you want in your life, but the sooner you figure that out the happier you’re going to be. You should have friends that make you feel good about yourself. Friends that build you up and are fun to be around.
You can’t change people. You can only change yourself. But maybe we need to re-evaluate women’s relationships with one another. Let’s start changing how women treat other women. Let’s start to be supportive, understanding and empower each other to be our best selves. Rather than seeing other women as rivals, inferior or superior why not celebrate each other’s great attributes? That’s how we’re going to see change, by being the change. So if you’re a mother, older sister, aunt etc. start building other women up and being that change. Think how amazing that would be and the great part is, we can start right now.
By: Cortnie Bornyk