How many of you have heard that you are a reflection of the five people that you spend the most time with? I am sure most of you - but I bet you haven’t thought about it in this way before. It’s not only important because you begin to reflect their mindset and mannerisms to an extent, but the people you spend most of your time with will either help you stay where you currently are in life, push you to be better, and, sometimes, unfortunately hold you back.
I have recently noticed that the people who I am currently surrounding myself with are not only supportive, but also encourage me to think in a new way. They push me to go in different directions and help me to strive to be better than my current state. They want me to succeed and give me guidance where they can. They believe in me, my dreams and what I am capable of.
I am so incredibly grateful to have slowly found these kinds of people, but let me tell you it was definitely not easy. It took time, effort, connecting with different people and sometimes even realising that some people just weren’t going to fit in to the life that I am creating for myself. Here’s the great thing: you can find awesome people too.
Here are a few steps to help you to find the right kinds of people for you and your life.
First you have to set yourself standards and guidelines as to what kinds of people you want in your life.
You can then begin looking for and taking opportunities that will help you in building relationships and the life that you want.
Next, step out of your comfort zone. Go to different events and actually talk to people. It may take practice but eventually you’ll connect with like-minded people and begin to build supportive and positive relationships.
After meeting them initially follow up with an email and ask to meet them for a coffee/lunch etc. to begin to build a relationship and get to know them better. It will also give you the opportunity to ensure that they fit with what you’re looking for. Mutually beneficial relationships are important but not mandatory.
Make sure that before you go to any event or talk to people that you are in a good headspace and tell yourself that you’ll do great. What you say to yourself before doing something that may make you uncomfortable is very important. You may even want to write down some positive affirmations or words to read before each event.
I often find different events on Meetup or Eventbrite. There are lots of other places on the internet that can help you to look for networking opportunities and events as well. You just have to start looking.
I can tell you right now that when you start to create this amazing, supportive group of people around you, you’ll wonder why you hadn’t created it earlier. It’s such a great feeling to know that people support you and want you to succeed.
I wish I had learnt much earlier how life changing this concept could be. So what’s stopping you right now from starting to look for new phenomenal people in your life?
By: Cortnie Bornyk